Planet Descent
Community => Mess Hall => Topic started by: VANGUARD on October 01, 2011, 05:16:50 PM
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I'm sure a lot will laugh, but I am trying to figure out what 'losing the game' means. Some girl said that to me when I asked how she was doing. I don't believe it has anything to do with a sport, or video. losing touch with something or someone? not all with reality?
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Did she say she was "losing the game" or that you were "losing the game"? (trying to get more of the context of the conversation)
If I (or you) had asked "how are you doing?" and she replies with "losing the game" I'd say she was feeling down because things (or something) didn't or wasn't going in her favor. I'd also consider it a chance to be sympathetic and might ask about it or offer to be of help.
There is also the chance (especially when you consider how I look) that she was thinking that what she was seeing wasn't going to win any trophies... therefore she's "losing the game" in the dating game. I hope that wasn't the case when she saw you.
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You just epically lost the game.
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she is some cashier I see at a gas station. we do have small talk, but by far, nothing serious. we don't email or call each other. we don't date. we don't see each other outside the store. like I said, small talk. I asked how she was, and she said she thinks she's losing the game.
now I feel bad, knowing what it is. I wasn't sure what it was at first. I didn't get into it much, and said I lose games at Call of Duty.
she sure seemed down when she said it though. hope she's fine. seems like a nice sweet young girl.
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You lost the game.
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Ask her out for a cup of coffee somewhere and see where it takes you. Be sure to be an attentive listener!
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Yeah, that's not a bad idea. Even if it does go nowhere, it could still cheer her up some. :)
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I'm worried about one thing. I had spoken to some cashier years back. It was small talk. it was about some things she's doing, college, or a team. small talk. I asked her about doing something, and she looked so freaked out; 'deer caught in the headlights' describes it pretty well.
I felt horrible.
I guess in this case, we are older now. and I wonder if this new person is sort of crying out for help.
do most cashiers do that to just another customer? she knows me enough to know I go there often (no vending machines at my job). I'm not just some unknown person. we strike up small conversations.
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I think (since you've become a casual acquaintance by frequent visits to the store), that you should show her you're genuinely interested in her well being by expressing sympathy and interest in her well being. ... but don't come on too strong. Just show sympathy and interest/curiosity in the cause of her situation, then let her decide where it goes after that.
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By the way, she was referring to "The Game" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Game_(mind_game)). [Basically, the game is not to think about the game. If you think about it, you just "lost", and have to announce that you lost. It's generally a friendly thing.]
[Edit: By posting this, I just lost the game. And so did everyone else here. ;) ]
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I saw her Sunday; all seems fine I suppose.
Thank you all for clarifying this
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I'm sorry but "The Game" seems so incredibly stupid. There's no logic to it! If you lose The Game by just THINKING about it, can you get back in after you lose? Confusing... and STOOPID!
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I admit, I don't see how it's fun or anything. another definition I think is, something is going wrong in a relationship.
I haven't seen her much now.
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I'm sorry but "The Game" seems so incredibly stupid. There's no logic to it! If you lose The Game by just THINKING about it, can you get back in after you lose? Confusing... and STOOPID!
You don't get out of the game by losing, you can't get out of the game, because by thinking about getting out, you are thinking of the game and threrby have lost the game and must start over. If you think you are not in the game, you have thought about the game and thereby have lost the game. So, once you staert playing the game, there is no way to not play the game.
It is best to not start playing the game in the first place.
However, I think in this case, the girl said, 'I think I am losing the game', not 'I have lost the game'. So sounds to me she is refereing to life in general. ie, not making enough money to cover her bills, life just isn't going the way she wanted it to.
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However, I think in this case, the girl said, 'I think I am losing the game', not 'I have lost the game'. So sounds to me she is refereing to life in general. ie, not making enough money to cover her bills, life just isn't going the way she wanted it to.
That's what I think. In the "game", you either win or lose. or just lose all the time. however it works, I don't think you can be "losing" the game. not suppose to think of 'whatever', oh no, I think I am losing, I think I am thinking about it.
doesn't make sense.
I think WillyP is more dead on, because she did say, "I think I am losing the game." she sounded down/depressed too.
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"The Game," can also refer to life in general (it's been likened to a kind of elaborate game before in history) so I have to concur with WillyP's thoughts.
On the game itself though, I thought it was an interesting little thought experiment, and one could theoretically apply some psychological science to it. You wouldn't think it, (obviously because you'd be losing the game that way :P) but the whole idea has the potential for some deep thinking, at least from an outsider's perspective.
But for those who wouldn't give a hoot, yeah it does seem kind of idiotic. ::)
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"losing" could just as easily mean just being stuck in the state of thinking about the game.